So, I had a new experience this last weekend… and it wasn’t a pleasant one, to say the least.
Now, I’m going to be honest here (as I always am). I’m a little vain. I’m pretty much used to guys that I go for responding positively and while I’ve had guys who’ve decided that things weren’t moving forward, I’ve never really been outright rejected.
And last weekend, I was. It was harsh.
This guy who I’ve been sleeping with for the last month or so basically told me that he “couldn’t see himself fall in love with me, so he wasn’t interested anymore” and that it was basically like “that book, He’s Just Not That Into You.”
Yeesh! I mean, I never expected/wanted a relationship and he’s not the type of guy I would fall for, in fact, I was just in it for the sex. I consider myself an excellent partner, so it’s a blow to the ego to have a guy who turns down what was essentially a “friends with benefits” arrangement. I know that occasionally (aka 2x) over the past two months I asked if he wanted to hang out and he said no, but I also had times where I wasn’t available to get together.
I think the surprise was in the sudden change. I mean, we hung out a week ago from last weekend and everything was fine Friday night, but when Saturday rolled around, I could tell something was different. We didn’t talk all week and when I texted him Saturday night (per his direction) he gave me the you-no-longer-interest-me speech (via text).
It hurt because I don’t like being rejected. Especially because I was being rejected when I didn’t even want to DATE him, let alone pursue anything close to love. But in the end, I think a little humility is good for me, and sometimes, even a mean text can help me stay grounded. ;-)
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Indiana Jones: Or how to rehash a tired myth (SPOILERS!)
Really, Steve. Really?
ALIENS was the BEST idea you could think up for Mr. Jones?!
I swear, of all the boring myths that have been over-explored. I have no idea how Steve (who is clearly a close, personal friend of mine) would decide on the one that early man was too dumb to build civilization or discover farming without extraterrestrials. It's asinine. It's uninspiring. It's so hokey that even Harrison Ford can't pull it off.
I would have taken Indiana Jones and the Sasquatch Skeleton over the Crystal Skull.
The original three movies are hokey, don't get me wrong. But they, like the original Star Wars trilogy (don't get me started on George Lucas) vs. the new Star Wars movies, had a charm and "newness" about them that the Indy and the Dull Skull lacks. The never-ending car chase through the ridiculously CGI'ed jungle just made me yawn and look around the theater. Surviving a NUCLEAR BLAST in a fridge is so ludicrous that I couldn't help but shake my head. The chase/escape-the-giant-rolling-object scenes seemed designed more to create a Disney ride from than to entertain the audience. And Shia LeDumb dressed up as Brando, ugh.
Now, I know that you have to suspend disbelief to enjoy the world that Indiana Jones inhabits, but come on. It's almost a shame to make the atomic bomb reference when all I could think about was the actual survivor footage from Hiroshima or the documentary about the original scientists/soldiers on the project who all died from radiation poisoning (from exposure from miles away). Even in Temple of Doom (the worst of the original three, in my opinion) where Indiana and the annoying blond woman plummet from the SKY on an escape raft is more plausible (thanks in part to Mythbusters).
In the end, the outcome of the search is what is so disappointing. Not only is it a fallback to a poorly made Lifetime Original Movie where the long suffering woman finally married the man who always loved her (but actually disappeared for 18 years after leaving her right before the wedding… not that THAT matters when it comes to true love). It's also a horrible story. ALIENS?! ALIENS?! I just wanted to yell that the entire time the stupid crystal extraterrestrials were fusing together to TAKE OFF IN A SPACESHIP! Come on George, give it up. You're just slowly killing formerly wonderful franchises, one poorly-executed, overly CGI'd sequel at a time.
ALIENS was the BEST idea you could think up for Mr. Jones?!
I swear, of all the boring myths that have been over-explored. I have no idea how Steve (who is clearly a close, personal friend of mine) would decide on the one that early man was too dumb to build civilization or discover farming without extraterrestrials. It's asinine. It's uninspiring. It's so hokey that even Harrison Ford can't pull it off.
I would have taken Indiana Jones and the Sasquatch Skeleton over the Crystal Skull.
The original three movies are hokey, don't get me wrong. But they, like the original Star Wars trilogy (don't get me started on George Lucas) vs. the new Star Wars movies, had a charm and "newness" about them that the Indy and the Dull Skull lacks. The never-ending car chase through the ridiculously CGI'ed jungle just made me yawn and look around the theater. Surviving a NUCLEAR BLAST in a fridge is so ludicrous that I couldn't help but shake my head. The chase/escape-the-giant-rolling-object scenes seemed designed more to create a Disney ride from than to entertain the audience. And Shia LeDumb dressed up as Brando, ugh.
Now, I know that you have to suspend disbelief to enjoy the world that Indiana Jones inhabits, but come on. It's almost a shame to make the atomic bomb reference when all I could think about was the actual survivor footage from Hiroshima or the documentary about the original scientists/soldiers on the project who all died from radiation poisoning (from exposure from miles away). Even in Temple of Doom (the worst of the original three, in my opinion) where Indiana and the annoying blond woman plummet from the SKY on an escape raft is more plausible (thanks in part to Mythbusters).
In the end, the outcome of the search is what is so disappointing. Not only is it a fallback to a poorly made Lifetime Original Movie where the long suffering woman finally married the man who always loved her (but actually disappeared for 18 years after leaving her right before the wedding… not that THAT matters when it comes to true love). It's also a horrible story. ALIENS?! ALIENS?! I just wanted to yell that the entire time the stupid crystal extraterrestrials were fusing together to TAKE OFF IN A SPACESHIP! Come on George, give it up. You're just slowly killing formerly wonderful franchises, one poorly-executed, overly CGI'd sequel at a time.
Monday, May 19, 2008
Taking a break
I finally decided that I need some space, some time apart, if you will. As anyone who has read any of my blog will know, I've had a lot of issues maintaining the integrity of my current relationship. I, for lack of a better term, have had a wandering eye. And it's truly not because I didn't/don't love the boyfriend, it's that it wasn't a good fit for me.
I've thought about it a lot, and I believe it comes down to a couple issues. 1) Too committed, too quickly 2) personality differences 3) my general difficulty in being devoted
On the first, we basically went from dating to seeing each other every single day and almost living together. There were WEEKS at a time when he never saw his own apartment other than to stop by on a lunch break to pick up mail or a movie. I have always been a commitment-phobic lady, and I believe now that subconsciously this was wearing on me. It was like getting into a super serious relationship overnight. The issue is that I didn't set boundaries up front. I mean, at the beginning, of course I wanted to see him all the time, but that isn't good because then, months later, when I needed space, he felt hurt by it. And so of course, we'd end up hanging out, and then the cycle of my feeling a little trapped or too involved continued. This break-up probably wouldn't have been necessary if we had kept our lives more separate from the get-go.
On the second, I am very motivated and passionate. He is not-so-much. I like going out and he is a homebody. I think I could have made the heavy commitment work if he was more like me. I mean, since I broke it off, I have been to an art exhibit opening, a bar I've been meaning to go to since last summer, 80s dance party-themed charity event, 15 mile bike ride, etc. It's like he's not motivated to go make things happen, so I don't actually end up doing things either. It's not healthy for me.
On the third, I do admit that it's hard for me to be focused on one person. In all my relationships, save one, I've had a tough time remaining 100% faithful to the person I was dating. That one relationship was the only one where I was so in love with the person that I couldn't have imagined wanting to be with anyone else. All my others were just not quite compelling enough. I think that I need to wait on committing from now on, so that this doesn't keep happening to me. It's not fair to the guys I date, and it's just not a good, ethical practice.
So, there you have it, I suppose. And I'll see where things go from here...
I've thought about it a lot, and I believe it comes down to a couple issues. 1) Too committed, too quickly 2) personality differences 3) my general difficulty in being devoted
On the first, we basically went from dating to seeing each other every single day and almost living together. There were WEEKS at a time when he never saw his own apartment other than to stop by on a lunch break to pick up mail or a movie. I have always been a commitment-phobic lady, and I believe now that subconsciously this was wearing on me. It was like getting into a super serious relationship overnight. The issue is that I didn't set boundaries up front. I mean, at the beginning, of course I wanted to see him all the time, but that isn't good because then, months later, when I needed space, he felt hurt by it. And so of course, we'd end up hanging out, and then the cycle of my feeling a little trapped or too involved continued. This break-up probably wouldn't have been necessary if we had kept our lives more separate from the get-go.
On the second, I am very motivated and passionate. He is not-so-much. I like going out and he is a homebody. I think I could have made the heavy commitment work if he was more like me. I mean, since I broke it off, I have been to an art exhibit opening, a bar I've been meaning to go to since last summer, 80s dance party-themed charity event, 15 mile bike ride, etc. It's like he's not motivated to go make things happen, so I don't actually end up doing things either. It's not healthy for me.
On the third, I do admit that it's hard for me to be focused on one person. In all my relationships, save one, I've had a tough time remaining 100% faithful to the person I was dating. That one relationship was the only one where I was so in love with the person that I couldn't have imagined wanting to be with anyone else. All my others were just not quite compelling enough. I think that I need to wait on committing from now on, so that this doesn't keep happening to me. It's not fair to the guys I date, and it's just not a good, ethical practice.
So, there you have it, I suppose. And I'll see where things go from here...
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